Good morning my dear friends ❤
I am sure most of you know that there was a couple high profile suicides last week in the US. My heart goes out to Kate Spade & Anthony Bourdain’s friends and families during this difficult time.
I have been in a very conflicted state regarding the media and their take on mental health/suicide spike following these very unfortunate events (including fellow musicians that we sadly lost) but lets not forget the non-famous families that are impacted every day.
Forgive me if you disagree, but some media outlets make it seem like this is a “new thing” …or perhaps that is just the vibe I am getting.
That is not the case.
Sure, statistically there are more documented suicides each passing year. So I guess it is “on the rise.” However, this is a fight everyday for some people, families and friends. Spotlight on this very STIGMATIZED health concern, should not be following a famous individual.
It should be every damn day.
Let me tell you…the crisis line that I volunteer for, blew the eff up Friday and the entire weekend. We had consistent SOS calls to help if we could…whew. Additionally, I saw that the National Suicide Hotline calls jumped 25% … and from what I have read, there are many factors for this.
I am grateful that people are feeling courageous enough to reach out. I am truly thankful.
But I am still very angry.
Every time that someone volunteers for these lines, of all types. This is every day for them. All day, every day – beautifully trained souls are assisting in talking someone off the edge, lending a hand in aiding someone with addiction or victim of assault (including sexual).
Yet… there is so much stigma surrounding the above.
SOMEONE TELL ME THE FUCK WHY
It is easy to see the statistics or hear about these horrible stories in the news and think “wow, this is a real problem” and then go on about the day, lost in the feed. We all are guilty.
However, when resources are limited. Insurance coverage is an issue. Employers not taking mental health seriously. When someone dies by suicide, some may wonder huh. I wonder how they got there?
- Did they try to reach out and get shut down?
- Do they have mental health coverage? Even if they do, does it cost them a significant amount?
- Are their loved ones the real issue behind closed doors?
- Social standards or economy?
It can go on and on. Anyone can be impacted – money cannot buy happiness.
I guess, I just needed to get this off my chest.
I also want to ask all of my friends to reach out to a friend that may be “off” or a busy mother that may just be holding it together by a thread, an employee/co-worker that you have caught trying to cover their tears or even your direct family member- a simple “hello, how are you” can start a conversation.
Or maybe share your story, join a walk, ask your employer if there is anything that you can do for the office, check in on your college student friends/family, smile at a stranger or volunteer – mental illness is not going anywhere, so lets be there for each other.
That is all. I will take my drink back 🙂
What are your thoughts? Agree? Disagree? How can we do better? Let is all out my friends!
Until next time