Sorry I have been away for a couple days, I ended up with a stomach bug 🤢😰 and just now feeling human!
So today’s post is something that has been in the back of my mind for the past few days. My friend and I were on the phone catching up on life and of course, relationships came up. She asked me a very interesting question:
Do I believe in soulmates?
I thought about it for a minute and replied, “no.”
Now, before you gasp or think “wow this gal is jaded!” Or maybe you’re agreeing with me – sorry for jumping there!
To me “soulmates” have been made up through media as you two meet, fall in love immediately, frolic through a meadow of fabulous flowers, never fight, never disagree, get married, everyone is happy, healthy and live happily ever after – without a bump in the road. Everything is just “perfect.”
Let’s be honest, humans are messy. Life is very messy and it seems to only get more complicated as the years go by…or as I continue through adult life.
I continued on with my friend – stating that: we as humans are so complex, we all differ, handle stress differently, come from all sorts of backgrounds and always learning. Life is not skipping through roses hand in hand. Ideally, we just want someone who is not going to give up on us. Someone who is on your team no matter what life throws at both of you.
This chat also reminded me of another conversation that I had with my married friend. Some random weekend chatter between gals, she came out and said that she felt that she and her then fiancé were not perfect, but they made a great team.
At that time I felt, wow that is not quite romance haha. The more I thought of it over the years and with the recent soulmate chat – while not sprinkled with romance, it was real and true.
Now don’t get me wrong, give a gal some romance every now and again – sure. However, at the end of the day, in our messy lives, or time of crisis or pain – even if the person may quirks that drive you nuts most days – if they prove to be next to you at the end of those crappy days, battling with you or someone who helps make a plan when you cannot even think…a perfect life teammate if you will. That is what you need.
Perhaps that is a soulmate, just my version.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you have a story or idea that may change my mind? Or do you agree?
I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! Keep an eye on my page, I will be posting again later tonight or this weekend as well!