Being a bleeding heart in a cold world. 

I have always been one of those, anti-social media gals for a while. Of course I grew up with MySpace and Facebook but for me, it always seemed to invite negativity in my life in one way or another, so I removed myself from it years ago.

However, I did try out Instagram last year as I felt, okay – this is more just pictures and small captions, not so much a never ending flood of public feuds, nasty comments or what I would call “perfect” life syndrome. At first, I felt that this was a good way to stay connected without as much negativity but over the year I found that Instagram also started to bring me down. Of course, I fell in love with plenty of dogs, cute  or funny videos and kept in contact with some friends but things started to take a turn for me.

Over the past few months, I have started to see such a publication and encouragement of what I call poor behavior. This came in many ways but some of the most common alarming trends were:

  • “Savage”  lifestyle – which from what I gathered was openly and happily doing people wrong, being rude or disrespectful. This includes  family and friends.
  • Women’s “Hoe” life – why are some women so excited to be be like, well I got 5 significant others or boyfriends so if your man does something you don’t like or god forbid you miscommunicated, women are going out and getting those revenge free  dinners, sex, texting other men or messing around with their significant other’s best friends? Of course I know this can go with both genders but specifically women have seemed to be more common.
  • Relationships – there are a few things that fall under this section for me. For example, women getting very worked up over men liking others posts, not liking every picture they post etc. I feel like if you are more worried about if your SO liked your 3rd selfie of the day, you may need to do a little more reflecting. People leave eachother over these things. I have read that the best relationships are the ones that are not plastered all over social media…I think there is something to be said about it.
  • Stalking – I know curiosity hits us all, but there can come a time where it can become unhealthy . Whether it’s friends, past friends, exes, idols or even when your ex’s new partner stalks you too and vice versa. There are memes about it and we all know it’s out there but being self aware and not encouraging this behavior. There is a reason there are memes about women saying they can find out  anything, more details than the FBI within 10 min. I have witnessed this with my own eyes (men and women) and I’m unsure how I feel about it, other than uncomfortable.

Perhaps I’m just  ranting, or my old soul is really showing at this point. But I ended up deciding that Instagram no longer was a good fit for me. I just disabled my account for this past week for various reasons. Mostly the above  list, because I am not that kind of person, woman, friend or relative. I am loyal to a fault and only fall in love with souls. Vanity and materials will never be my priority.

I have been told that I give too many  chances, too kind, love too much and it seems that most find it a weakness. While it can be lonely at times, because so many are colder, don’t fall in love with souls but faces, and give in to the negative world – I can say that I am happy with who I am.

Most don’t understand my ways, nor will they ever. Especially when mental health is involved – I’m fine being me. Big hearted, giving and “weak” me.

What are your thoughts on social media? Especially in this day. Do you feel the same? Do you feel social media can impact mental health and why? Please leave your thoughts and experiences  in the comments. If myou don’t mind, include your age as well. I am just wondering if there is a pattern among ages.

Thank you so listening and I hope to hear from you! Have a wonderful evening ❤️.



11 thoughts on “Being a bleeding heart in a cold world. 

  1. adultinginmy20s says:

    I think social media can definitely impact mental health, for better or for worse! You would think an app such as Snapchat could be harmless. Some may think “How could a photo or video that can only be viewed for a max of ten seconds be impactful?” It certainly can make a difference. I think if social media is treated the right way and you surround yourself with the right people, it is a positive aspect of life. Who cares if you only have a few Instagram followers, or you aren’t getting notifications every five minutes? If you see it as another form of communication with your closest friends, instead of as a place to try to prove to acquaintances and strangers you’re something you’re not, it can be a positive place.

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  2. clumsyandsilly says:

    I totally agree, I too am somewhat anti-social media. I get why others may have it but I personally don’t feel required or urged to conform to societies constantly energering and updating features. I prefer meeting people socialising the old fashioned way- face-to-face in real life not through a screen


  3. themanwhofellinlovewithpain says:

    I genuinely enjoyed this post of yours. I have also been anti-social towards media and still am to a great extent. Somedays it feels ok when you get to reunite with an old friend who is far away or when I get the chance to have have a really good conversation. The constant need to validate oneself and the bitter crisscross of words seem mundane because none of them are done for for logical reasons rather more for sentimemtal purposes. People in their daily lives accumulate a great deal of frustration and anger and requires the smallest of words to trigger them. Social media just becomes a place to release all that tension and because of the absence of any physical presence in front of them,people feel Immuned. The fear of physical confrontation removed,people begin to ramble on incessantly. Sometimes I do wish we go back to the times when internet wasn’t there but I guess the social media is nothing but a distorted field for socialism and a more toned down version of our society. Do keep writing more .

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    • madkatter13 says:

      Thank you so much for reading my blog and sharing your thoughts too! I’m so glad that my post was able to reach you, and I could not agree more with you more – in every point. This brings me so much joy to read and I hope we chat again soon! Thanks again for stopping by, I think we are going to get along famously! ❤️🙏🏻👋🏻


  4. loycejacobs says:

    You just spoke my mind. I tell my friends this everyday. My wifi connection on my phone wasn’t working so I was buying data. My friend was feeling sorry for me and the reason being I’m missing so much on snapchat. Like really??? My reply is always there’s so much more to life than snapchat.

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